What Does Your Hairstyle Mean To You? Let's talk about hair.
Hair has meaning. One of the first things I look at is hair when I'm looking at a stranger. It says a lot about the person and their personality sometimes and sometimes it doesn't.
During the pandemic, lot of women couldn't go to the hair salon, so their hair grew very long and natural. Some women kept their gray hair and some went straight to the hair salon as soon as possible to dye it. My mother is one of those people who would dye her hair to cover her gray hair. She said this world is sexist and agist. She said that she doesn't want another reason to be discriminated against at her workplace.
In my early teen years, I would dye my hair blonde highlights and have an AIM screenname Aznblondegirl26. I wanted to be cool. Blonde hair and blue eyes are considered most attractive to men. I think as a teenager, I unconsciously knew that. Growing up Chinese, I noticed black is such a common hair color in Asia that they dye it different colors, and back then Japanese hair colors were cool.
In my twenties, I got a perm when I entered my first romantic relationship. It gave me volume and life just like the new relationship. After six months, the relationship and the perm were both damaged.
The breakup and the damaged hair made me get a bob or a lob. I cut off the split ends and wanted to look older as I was starting a job as a baby therapist.
Then I wore my hair naturally for most of my thirties but the hair was limp and lacking volume. So I got a Korean Digital Perm a year ago. It looked good but sadly gave me hair loss. Hair was falling out and hats became my best friend to hide the widening of my scalp. I took supplements but it gave me hyper-thyroid problems and gain lot of weight.
I spent most of my twenties with short hair because I wanted to prove to the world that I was a competent and mature therapist. Now that I feel competent and mature as a therapist, I grow my hair long because I want to look youthful and have hair just like when I was a teenager. It's so interesting that my hair went into a full circle. I haven't gotten gray hair yet, but I'm excited to get it for the wrong reasons. I want gray hair so I look like a wise and mature therapist. My Asian genes have blessed me with a baby face and a tiny frame.
These days I only crave volume in my hair and no grease and dandruff. I am excited to have long hair again but I worry that hair loss would come back again and I would have to cut it. I would enjoy my long hair as long as I can.
If you enjoy my hair story and want to share your hair story with me, feel free to book a 15-minute free consultation with me. It's important to find a therapist for women who can talk about hair and how it connects and explore deeper into your soul and identity as a person.
