I am a therapist that loves helping deep thinkers, overachievers, and rebels with find love in dating and relationships and taking up space while finding balance in their careers.
To be a deep thinker, you are like Marvel Infinity War Doctor Strange, thinking of billion possibilities. You are like an onion with difficult layers of complexities. You also feel things deeply. You are like a chess player, strategizing and figuring out the next steps constantly. You are positioning and preparing yourself for success! But we know success comes with a price of burnout, anxiety, and stress. It doesn't have to be this way, there is a switch to turn off your brain like the light. Our brain is like a monkey, you have the power to train the monkey to stay still and I'm here to teach you!
As a recovered perfectionist and overachiever, I know what it's like to feel like I'm pulled in many directions. I remember my Chinese mother telling me when I got a 100 in Math, she had the audacity to ask me in Cantonese, "Where are the extra points in extra credit?" You may feel like you are not good enough all the time. You may feel like a failure because you feel pressure to do everything well and to please everyone. When you fall asleep at night you are thinking of all the tasks you have to do the next day. You do not know if work-life balance is attainable. You do not know if you can date or work at the same time or do both without one failing. But finding a balance is attainable, and I'm here to help you find it yourself.
I also have a special place for rebels, as I grew up highly sensitive to lots of emotions. Rebels are disruptors of systems. You may feel alone but refuse to let others break you down. To be a rebel means not conforming to society's standards of when to get married, career choice, and having children. Rebels are cool but also exhausted from fighting all the time. Let me be your guide and help you unlock the best version of your true potential.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an Asian American Therapist in New York. I love helping women process and let go of their trauma so they can show up and take in space in dating and careers. My friends will describe me as weird, honest, funny, and authentic. I was born in Guangzhou, China, and moved to Los Angeles when I was five years old. I am always drinking tea and petting my cat Coco who you will sometimes see virtually on telehealth online therapy.
Here is a photo of my cat Coco, she looks forward to checking on you during your virtual Telehealth sessions:
Going to therapy in my 20s made me clear about my sense of self and attract the right kind of guy for me. I suffered from depression that was so unbearable that I went to see a therapist. For the first time, I felt less alone and seen. I felt emotions very deeply and was told I was too "sensitive" my whole life. Being a highly sensitive person is my superpower now! I use emotions to heal and help other people find their passion and desires in life. I began my career as a crisis counselor helping people with anxiety and suicidal thoughts. Before I started Private Practice, I worked with older adults in a mental health startup. I was also a School Social Worker in the Department of Education; helping parents navigate special education to obtain an Individual Education Plan and provide counseling to high-risk students. Some settings I also worked at included Outpatient Mental Health Clinics, Group Practice, Senior Centers, Hospitals, and Non-profit agencies.
These days I like to spend my free time doing hydroponic gardening, karaoke, and finding good food in Flushing Chinatown.
Hunter Silberman School of Social Work
MSW, Clinical Social Work with Individuals and Families
New York School of Psychoanalysis Psychotherapy - 2017-2020 (Graduated)
EMDR Level 1 and 2
AEDP Level 1
NASW Political Action For Candidate Election Miriam Dinerman Scholarship Award
Interviewed, Behind the "Model Minority" Myth: Why the "Studious Asian" Stereotype Hurts
To get started, you can contact me or text/call me at 347-631-8350 to set up a free 15-minute phone consultation.
