Here we are on Nov 12, exactly a week after the election, waking up to a changed reality.

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If you are a therapist like me, you must be tired and sucker-punched, and systems work against us and our clients all the time. I woke up at 8 am last Wednesday and checked the news but was afraid to look.

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The streets of New York were so quiet and the subway was quiet. I was shocked, now I’m numb and angry.

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The reality is that we have two choices, just like when people go through trauma, we fight or fight. I invite that we take the time and feel all the emotions but then decide how we want to show up in reality.

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Do we fight? or Do we flee the country?

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One thing I know about myself is that I know how to barrel through and fight and survive my whole life. I fought poverty, and parents who didn’t know how to show up for me, when I showed up myself, I was told I was too much, to be quiet, to be so invisible I didn’t matter. Then I went into social work and was told to follow rules, and not take up space. Then went into therapy space, and learned to put others first and put myself last.

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Here’s what I know, I know how to fall and get back up and rise again and again. I am a rebel, and I am a fighter. I want a world that reflects what I want. I want freedom, peace, and wealth. I want rights and systems that work, instead of systems that work to set me up and our future children to fail. The only person that can save us is ourselves.

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I am ready to show up for my clients to hold space for sorrow, grief, mourning, loss, disappointment, and for you. How are you going to be stepping up? The system is not going to save you. If you are connected with anything I’ve said and want to talk about it.

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