Last month I was enjoying myself in a hammock and reflecting on how people find each other. For example, this person I know fell in love with their next door neighbor, dated and married. On Instagram, I saw a reel about a couple that sat next to each other the whole plane ride and now they are married with three kids. I met my husband when we were doing karaoke meetup, after that, he started showing up and sitting next to me to every event. Everytime I turn around he was always there in his green jacket and brown beanie.

I started thinking about the proximity effect that people date their classmates, coworkers, neighbors, churchmates and friends. I think that if you use that for dating, it can be effective. If there is a cute girl or boy in their class, try to sit close to them or be in the same club. Being in close physical proximity and also in similar friend groups can help. It helped for Kate Middleton. His parents wanted her to marry the Prince of England so they placed her in the same private schools as Prince William, giving her an opportunity to be the same circle as him and being friends with him.

I also thought of the circle of influence, where the people you know and like influences your success in dating and career. For example, Meghan Markle is a really good networker. When she got a divorce, she was very proactive in social life and meeting new friends. One of her friends introduced her to Prince Harry when she was visiting. Another youtube star that I follow also talked about this, she was in London, and her friend had a blind date, and an extra friend who was interested in doing a double date. She thought it would be a waste of time but ended up going and they did long distance. Later on, they were happily married.

I think if you apply these two ideas, it can be very helpful in your dating. Good Luck!

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